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Old 02-03-2010, 05:26 PM   #1
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I have a 12 week old lab mix puppy that is 99% housebroke and listens very well. The only problem is she hates being left alone. Whenever we leave she imedtiatley starts crying and pees and poops. No matter if she just did her business outside. She contiunes crying until we return. Which is generally two hours. Before we leave we always make sure to take her to the park and exhaust her energy, hide treats and toys around the room, ignore her for at least 20min prior to leaving, and make sure she pottys outside. I feel awful that she is so stressed while we are gone. We have even tried doing the door thing where we pretend like we are getting ready to leave but not leave, or stepping outside the door for a second or two before returning. These behaviors still make her cry and pee. I don't like knowing that she is this upset that we are leaving. Any suggestions on how I can get her to feel comfortable and confident about being alone?

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While I am no puppy expert by any means...I do believe what you are experiencing is very common. An important part of crate training is making the puppy feel safe in their crate. If you only put your puppy in her crate when you leave, she is going to associate the crate with that negative thing happening. You need to have crate time while you are home. Sit by the crate with the puppy in it and give treats and toys, let her out after a short period of time, repeat this process throughout the time you are home. Her crate needs to be her safe "happy" place and I'm 99.9% sure that most problems with crate training are because the puppy is only put in the crate when the owner(s) leave the house.
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Hi armyers and to Df Don't worry it is common. The ideal situation would have been as soon as you got the puppy ( I presume at 8 weeks old?) would be leave the room for few secs then go back in the room and gradualy increase the time to a few mins and increase the frequency over a month or so This is what I did and I can now go out for 4 hrs with only the ocassional accident ( Pee in the kitchen) as I might have forgot to let her out before I went out. So 2 hrs is very achievable.

I am not a great lover of crateing not saying it doesn't work.. What the pup needs is a old 'T' shirt with your body scent on it and may be a ticking clock ( For night time if needed) the 'T' shirt will reasure the pup that your are still there even if she can't see you! You could also stuff a kong with some tasty treats and leave that when you go out. You could also get a a family member to call round or a trusted friend/neighbour. You don't necessarily need to crate to get round this problem. The other thing is are you doing too much loving towards her like being on your lap for hrs on end? in other words she needs boundaries and needs to know that she can lie on the floor as well as having a cuddle in both places on the sofa and the floor Nipper loves to sit with me but it's on my terms she has to be invited up. I have a coal fire lit and
Nipper is hogging the prime place! Yes that's in front of the fire. Hope you get the problem sorted and good luck in what ever you decide to do. Keep us posted. ATB
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hello Armyers

i might not help you at all but i remember when CSILLAG was small cant compare the 2 because we are talking about small and big dogs.i was in the same situation she was peepee and poo in the house all the time.we are working and came home to visit her and there was always pee and poo there. The pups need a lot of patience and training before they adapt to a certain life style. Sometimes you think that it would never happen, but they always get there in the end.

Even with the crying, I think it just takes time. They want attention and compony all the time, but one day, if you follow the sam routine, they will accept it. For example, when we get up early in the morning, Chillag does not see us off anymore. She stays in the warm bed because she knows there is nothing she can do. She also knows when we will arrive and always wait for us. We always followed the "leave withut fuss, but arrive with a lot of attention and treats". She did finally realize that leaving is no big deal, but returin is an occasion to wait for and an opporunity to take the pee and poo outside. Sometimes you think that they would never get there, and there is no certain lenghth of time to wait for them to learn, but they always get there in the end. Hope this helps a little. Send a kiss from Chillag

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she loves her crate. Just sitting around in the evening when she gets tired or needs alone time she always goes and lays in her crate. SHe also sleeps in her crate at night no problem. She just gets upset when we leave the room. We just decided to move her crate outside the room to where she can still see the bed in the room. So she will sleep there alright and we plan on each night closing the door a little more and more until it can be closed and she is ok with not seeing us. Hopefully it works. THank you for the advice some of you have given. It makes me feel better to know that this is a common problem. For she is my first pup and im a paranoid puppy mom that just wants to do everything right or at least try!

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Hello armyers and welcome to the forum!

Since you've gotten so much great advice already about the only thing I can add is to consider leaving a radio on that plays soft music, or put a stuffed toy in with her. The crying can drive you nuts, but yes it is normal, even if you do everything the right way.
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Hello- just wondering how the crating went. I have a 8 wk old puppy and she hates her crate too. I have done everything ppl suggested. I left shirt in there, left music/tv on, gave treats to go in, everything and she still screams when i put her in and leave and come home- will it ever end?!?

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Hi Aquager and aboard to Df .It sounds like you need to try something else why not have a nice comfy dog bed with your body scent on a old 'T' shirt along with a ticking clock (small) or watch put the ticking clock/watch under the bedding and on top put the old 'T' shirt I am not lucky but read my puppy pack and I didn't go down the crate route and i haven't looked back since! Nipper is now 2yrs 5 months old. Would I do it differently now if I had another puppy now? No is the answer it makes for a easier life all round. ATB
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