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Ramona 07-13-2012 02:28 AM

Hello and possible new dog (Ramona)
 
Hi, fellow dog-people! :) I know I already like you. Here's my official introduction:

At 65, I am a "Golden Era" dog-lover who came late to the party but had a wonderful time until it was over:

I was given (yes given) a Cavalier King Charles Spaniel 10 years ago. I fell deeply, madly in love and experienced feelings I had never known in my life. What a sweet boy! I devoted myself to him completely. (OK, I actually do have a life, but I was just nuts about this little guy. He was my shadow. We were a very small, tight "pack.")

In December of 2011 when Riley was 9 1/2, he was diagnosed with intestinal lymphoma. I opted to go for the chemo, and we had the most wonderful time those last almost-five months of his life. I did things for him that surprosed me, and I'd do it all over again... In all my years, I had never seen another being die, but I had to euthanize him on April 30th. I had been grieveing all along, but now with him gone for good, I am really getting the full-tsunami effect.

(Cue the melodramatic string section): I'll never have another dog! Never!! There is no way I could feel what I felt for Riley ever again!

So, I just "happened" to be innocently cruising Petfinder when three totally bizarre looking little lost souls caught my eye. So what am I doing Saturday? Going to two adoption events to check them out.

I wonder if I'm nuts. I wonder if it's the "right" time. I wonder if I will be disappointed in these cuties just because they won't be Riley. I wonder if any of you have ever wondered these things...

Thanks for reading my story. :cheers:

PMR 07-13-2012 03:34 AM

Hi Ramona, I said the exact same thing when I lost my last dog Jasper. He was such a fantastic little boy. The heartbreak was unbearable. And I thought the same things as you :)


Scroll on 17 years and I have 2 dogs, one 13 the other coming up 15 at the end of August. They too have totally stolen my heart, and I love them just the same way I loved Jasper.


I have said already, I am not going to have any more. But just like Jasper, Arny and Roly I'm sure another dog will come into my life.

Good luck at the adoption events.

Irene V. 07-13-2012 10:15 AM

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Originally Posted by Ramona (Post 380304)
Hi, fellow dog-people! :) I know I already like you. Here's my official introduction:

At 65, I am a "Golden Era" dog-lover who came late to the party but had a wonderful time until it was over:

I was given (yes given) a Cavalier King Charles Spaniel 10 years ago. I fell deeply, madly in love and experienced feelings I had never known in my life. What a sweet boy! I devoted myself to him completely. (OK, I actually do have a life, but I was just nuts about this little guy. He was my shadow. We were a very small, tight "pack.")

In December of 2011 when Riley was 9 1/2, he was diagnosed with intestinal lymphoma. I opted to go for the chemo, and we had the most wonderful time those last almost-five months of his life. I did things for him that surprosed me, and I'd do it all over again... In all my years, I had never seen another being die, but I had to euthanize him on April 30th. I had been grieveing all along, but now with him gone for good, I am really getting the full-tsunami effect.

(Cue the melodramatic string section): I'll never have another dog! Never!! There is no way I could feel what I felt for Riley ever again!

So, I just "happened" to be innocently cruising Petfinder when three totally bizarre looking little lost souls caught my eye. So what am I doing Saturday? Going to two adoption events to check them out.

I wonder if I'm nuts. I wonder if it's the "right" time. I wonder if I will be disappointed in these cuties just because they won't be Riley. I wonder if any of you have ever wondered these things...

Thanks for reading my story. :cheers:

Romona, Yes, Yes, and Yes, I know what you are going through and I feel that you have made the right decision. How do I know this? Well, it is for one, very therapeutic, that you would share the love you had for Riley for these lost souls. I think that you are a wonderful, courageous, unselfish human being. Not only that, pet adoption is the only way to go. There are so many unwanted and forgotten dogs out there. Pat yourself on the back, please, for what you are doing is what I wish that a lot more of us would do.

Thank you, oh thank you for adopting these precious dogs!!!!:cheers: You are the BEST!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

techie 07-13-2012 02:12 PM

If you are thinking of it, then it is the 'right' time :D
Welcome to df. I hope you find your new loves too.
techie

Ramona 07-13-2012 06:02 PM

Thanks for the welcome & the support, you guys. Guess what? Phelps (one of my three "finalists" in the first search round) is coming for a visit tonight! Having never adopted before, I am curious what y'all think are the most important questions for me to ask his foster mom?

I know there must be a better thread for this question, but I don't know where it is...

JGLI 07-13-2012 06:04 PM

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Originally Posted by Ramona (Post 380353)
Thanks for the welcome & the support, you guys. Guess what? Phelps (one of my three "finalists" in the first search round) is coming for a visit tonight! Having never adopted before, I am curious what y'all think are the most important questions for me to ask his foster mom?

I know there must be a better thread for this question, but I don't know where it is...

Well, thinking selfishly, I'd want a picture so that we get to see one asap :D. I love the name Phelps, very cute!

applesmom 07-13-2012 07:30 PM

"I wonder if I'm nuts. I wonder if it's the "right" time. I wonder if I will be disappointed in these cuties just because they won't be Riley. I wonder if any of you have ever wondered these things..."

Oh yes! :) I managed to hold out without a dog for four years before adopting a senior dog almost four years ago. From the moment she came to me she stole my heart and brought so much joy into my life that I instantly regretted waiting so long to make up my mind. She's gone now too but I would do it all over again without the wait if only present circumstances would allow.

Ramona 07-14-2012 12:02 AM

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OK, so Phelps came to visit today. He's adorable, sweet, funny, smart, and free of any observable behavior problems other than an affinity for toes and fingers. He wasn't hyper-active or "barky." He was a little shy, but he's been through a lot.

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What is troubling me is that I didn't immediately fall head-over-heels in love with him. I'd never seriously petted a wire-haired dog before, but I think the deal is that Riley is still heavy on my heart. I was up-front with Phelps' foster mom, and she seemed to think that my response was understandable. Riley was, in many ways, my first dog, and he's been gone only about 3 months. She said I would probably bond with Phelps just fine.

Have any of you ever adopted a dog and not felt that immediate connection? I sure don't want to make a mistake and bring that little guy any more grief...

applesmom 07-14-2012 01:12 AM

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Originally Posted by Ramona (Post 380373)
OK, so Phelps came to visit today. He's adorable, sweet, funny, smart, and free of any observable behavior problems other than an affinity for toes and fingers. He wasn't hyper-active or "barky." He was a little shy, but he's been through a lot.

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What is troubling me is that I didn't immediately fall head-over-heels in love with him. I'd never seriously petted a wire-haired dog before, but I think the deal is that Riley is still heavy on my heart. I was up-front with Phelps' foster mom, and she seemed to think that my response was understandable. Riley was, in many ways, my first dog, and he's been gone only about 3 months. She said I would probably bond with Phelps just fine.

Have any of you ever adopted a dog and not felt that immediate connection? I sure don't want to make a mistake and bring that little guy any more grief...

I have had a dog that I didn't bond with immediately because I was still greiving the loss of another and it turned out great. But he was a dog of the same breed I was familiar with. Here's a link to that story. http://www.dogforum.net/art-stories/...idnt-want.html

For what it's worth: I'd suggest that if you don't feel the connection, don't force it. The instant I met Greta my last dog, I knew instantly that she wasn't going anywhere and was going to stay right here with me. Greta was the same breed of dog that I'd had since 1974. Being so familiar with the breed made it very easy for me to judge her temperament and our compatability. Going from a spaniel to a terrier type is quite a change in temperament as well as energy levels. and need for mental stimulation as well as exercise. If you want a pet instead of a project, a shy or fearful terrier might be a bit more than you are prepared to take on at this point in your life. Have you considered contacting the Cavalier King Charles Rescue? Here is the link in case you want to try that route. Cavalier Rescue USA They have rescues in almost every state and larger cities, it shouldn't be too difficult to find one close to you.

I wish you the best whatever you decide.

rubythepup123 07-14-2012 08:24 PM

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Originally Posted by Ramona (Post 380373)
OK, so Phelps came to visit today. He's adorable, sweet, funny, smart, and free of any observable behavior problems other than an affinity for toes and fingers. He wasn't hyper-active or "barky." He was a little shy, but he's been through a lot.

Attachment 8761

What is troubling me is that I didn't immediately fall head-over-heels in love with him. I'd never seriously petted a wire-haired dog before, but I think the deal is that Riley is still heavy on my heart. I was up-front with Phelps' foster mom, and she seemed to think that my response was understandable. Riley was, in many ways, my first dog, and he's been gone only about 3 months. She said I would probably bond with Phelps just fine.

Have any of you ever adopted a dog and not felt that immediate connection? I sure don't want to make a mistake and bring that little guy any more grief...

its completlly normal.
you should bond with him fine. and i have a wirehaired dog too , you'll get used to it. first dogs you just fall so much in love. second dog its less heavy.


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