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Old 04-06-2009, 02:56 PM   #1
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Hello,

I'm Ails and we have recently got ourselves a rescue dog so I wanted to join a forum and read up on the best way to look after him.

Our new family member is called Hemi. He is a big lad, he looks like a cross between a fox and a wolf! I'm guessing he's actually a mix of golden retriever, german shepard, maybe with a bit of husky and border collie thrown in for good measure.

We picked him up last week from the local cat and dog home and so far so good, he was a bit unsettled for the first few days but is starting to chill out a little now. His previous owner was a little old lady who had to part with him because he was too strong for her.

We have two boys (8 & 10). My husband and I had a dog before (pre children) but this is the first dog for the kids and my first time being dog owner and mother at the same time, which I'm finding much harder than I thought!!

So far Hemi has been nothing but gentle and friendly. He's house trained and can sit but needs work on the other basics, however I find myself being completely paranoid with him around the children. I know it's paranoia and unjustified but how do I train myself to trust him and to not think he's going to eat them while I'm not looking. I'm sure my paranoia and jumpyness will translate to the kids and the dog and cause problems if I don't sort myself out! Any advice gratefully recieved!

Anyway - this forum looks great - I'm away to surf about and read up on stuff!

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Well, have the kids work the basics WITH you, if you work with positive reinforcement and you thaught the dog a command like down, then let the kids do the down as well the dog will then learn to also obey and respect the children and the children will learn very well on how to handle the dog which will increase and strengthen the bond between the three which I think will help to ease your worried. But you are also doing right in be a bit worried, a lot of people overlook any possible problems and therefor we have all the accidents... but if he has been very gentle when just settled in, which is usually the harder part, I think it can almost only be better from now..

when I was little we adopted a flatcoat retriver dalmation mix, 4 years old, i was abou 2-3.. ohmy god that dog lead me into the woods soooooo many times (we were living on the countryside) BUT she never left me in there and always made sure that I came back with her home, a few times the search party was just about to head out.. She also protected me from harm a few times, and she was just like your rescue I dont fully remember how she was when we got her just the day the man let her off in our yard, but my mom told me that she was gentle and kind from the getgo as well, so I think you are probably having a very good dog over there..

oh and sorry where is my manners..
Welcome to the dogforum, I hope you will like it here...
please post some pictures of your puppy he sounds VERY cute
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Hi Ailsa and


I was going to say....
you might want to save the questions for a different subforum as requests for advice get more responses if they are not in the New Members section.
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Hi Monkey -Thanks for the welcome

Good idea on the getting the kids to help with training. Our youngest is keen to help and has tried a little to help with training. He is if anything a bit over friendly and I have to keep reminding him that Hemi needs to get to know him to and needs a bit of space sometimes. So far Hemi is fine though it's me thats paranoid!!

Our eldest isn't really bothered about our new guy he likes him enough he's just not that interested in helping out. I don't want to force him, he will come round in his own time. He can be a bit tentative sometimes but that will come - it is as much about training the kids as the dog really!

To be honest I think the only thing that wll sort me is time. I think it's mainly because Hemi is quite big and much stronger than the kids that I'm so paranoid. I haven't owned a dog this strong before - its going to take a bit of getting used to!

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Hiya and welcome to the forum. Glad you found us. Can't wait to see pics of your fur baby. I would let the kids join in with the training as much a possible. Also show them how to play with your dog no ruff and tumble as this can get out of hand and not really a good idea. Try to settle as the dog could pick up that you are anxious with the kids around. Hope this helps a little. But most of all enjoy it. It's great to see dogs and kids getting on great togetter. Keep us posted of how your going we would luv to no.

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Hi Skunkstripe - good point lol - not my first forum - I should know better!

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Ailsa. Your new Hemi is gorgeous. I don't have any advice other than enjoy him and hope you enjoy the forum.
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Hello Blunder paws and Little Lucy - thanks for the nice welcome!

No ruff and tumble is a good call too... Is that just the kids or do I need to stop the husband playing ruff and tumble with him too?

I'm doing my best not to be outwardly anxious, so hopefully it won't be anything the dog or the kids pick up on but it's hard though! I think dog's pick up on the slightest of behavours which is why I'm looking for tips to try to train myself!!

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Hi Ailsa and welcome to the forum - wow, what a handsome dog he is, I soo envious!

I love the little terrier he is playing with, looks very Patterdale like (i.e like mine!!)

Hope you enjoy the forum, you will loads of great advice here.

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What wonderful pictures. I love the one with Hemi and the smaller dog in play pose.
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