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Old 12-14-2016, 12:22 PM   #1
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We got Aiko at 6 weeks. Her crate sits next to my side of the bed with a blanket area and a puppy pad area in case she can't wait. A food and a water dish.



In the morning my husband takes her out, feeds her, fills her water, and leaves. Immediately she gets upset and starts crying while pulling my blankets into her crate. Sometimes I can ignore it but more often I quickly puppy proof the bedroom and release her so I can go back to sleep. I just can't deal with the sleep deprivation. Otherwise I wake up but I make her stay in her crate until the time I would like her to come out. The thing is she doesn't care I leave her in the crate. She just wants me awake. Now that I'm awake she's sleeping in her crate. Is this a separation anxiety issue or something else? At first I placated her some because she was only 6 weeks old and now I'm getting more forceful that she quiet back down but it doesn't work. Nothing distracts her long before she has to wake me up. I'm not sure how to improve it and reduce my sleep deprivation except let her out unsupervised in the room. I don't like that no matter how much I try to puppy proof and sometimes in her excitement to be awake and out she starts talking with the other dogs. 1 is in a crate and 1 sleeps on the other side of the bed where we put a barrier because there is too many cords and my husband's electronics she can get into. So they get rather loud conversing between the bars. If I let the young husky out of her crate then they start a wrestling match which is loud too. I've had a few emotional breakdowns from sleep deprivation since I already suffer insomnia so I'm sleeping at 4-5am and waking up at 9am. My husband has had to stay home to let me sleep in periodically.

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Oh she's nearly 10 weeks now.

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I think 6 weeks was really too young to separate her from her mother and siblings. You can't undo that now. Maybe other members here will have some advice for you. I have never reared a puppy!
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You have my sympathy! I went through this with Timi and he would go from whimpering to crying pathetically, to barking and howling. I also have Cheynie--who is a good sleeper-- and Timi wanted everyone up just because he was. For quite a while it tore at my heart--this poor little special needs puppy-- and I did get up with him until I just couldn't do it anymore. I started just getting up to make sure he was ok, had water, and didn't need to "go" and then right back to bed for him (and me!) It took awhile but he got used to the idea that his behavior wasn't getting him anywhere and finally calmed down and slept or played quietly in his crate until I was ready to get up. Lack of sleep is awful and I wasn't doing Timi any favors walking around and interacting with him when i felt half dead! I remember lying in bed actually counting how many times he barked/howled in succession because he was making too much noise for me to get back to sleep. What did make me laugh is that when he eventually realized I wasn't getting up (and neither was Cheynie!) that when he did finally quiet down he would turn his back to me and put his nose in the corner of the crate as if he was sulking :-) Hang in, it does get better.
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Old 12-14-2016, 11:34 PM   #5
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Good advice from JGLI. Puppies usually do finally get use to the "people" morning routine. It does however, take some time. Even now my two...2 and 6 years old... will occasionally decide to wake up too early in the morning. I have to firmly tell them to lie down and then pull the covers over my head and ignore them. They will eventually lie down and "sulk" (as JGLI says) until I get up. As a friend once told me, having puppies and dogs is like have a household of babies and toddlers. They can exhaust us, but they are worth it.
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Usually they do but all the others did 2 weeks earlier. It's been 4 weeks (going on 5?) of routine and me trying to make up sleep. She hasn't improved even the tiniest bit. I'm trying to find the energy to make her a pen so she can play in part of the room or the connected kitchen (massive cleaning there first) instead.

She's sulking under the tv stand (like she'll fit there long) because I took her wood frame out to seal it better so she has a metal pan, all the dog blankets are in the wash , and she's kicked off the bed starting today when it gets late due to the 2am wait for peed blankets to get done.

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We are thinking of having her sleep in the bedroom but after she goes out in the morning putting her in a smaller crate in another room so she cannot directly bother us while we finish getting sleep. I don't know if I want to leave her entirely alone though so I was thinking of putting the husky she gets along with best out there too but they like to then talk through the bars and the husky is even louder than she is. I'm not sure if it would help or make things worse. I could put the shiba out there but she kind of hates her and she sets off in dying noises when puppies cry. It's not loud, it's just annoying and she's annoyed. She was making dying noises last night because they got hyper at 3am and were wrestling. The akita sleeps just fine and I can leave the house and she'll wait where I left her but she will take the house down to get back to me in the bedroom unless I give her a very good reason. If she knows she can get to me or thinks something is wrong she will tear up a crate and every door between here and there even if they are hardwood with a bolt latch. She took apart a door frame and ate through a wall to release a key locked bolt once.

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Hi The thing is do you both work and how long for? A good tip is a old 'T' shirt with your body scent on and put that on top of her bedding she will be familiar to the smell and this will comfort her also do you have a ticking clock to put under her bedding this will mimick her mothers heart beat and help her adjust. Also start now when leaving her start off by leaving her a few seconds each day and come back in then over a period of time gradually increase the amount of time away and frequency too the changes wont happen over night but you will see a improvement and when you leave and come back don't not fuss over her! let us know how you get on Good luck
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Saturday with both of us home she just slept. I woke up at 11:30 and it was quiet. I asked my husband if he gave her a stuffed kong or anything but no. Monday I managed to go back to sleep until 10 30. I've been making it up in the afternoon and late evening before waking up again since my brain won't go into a long period of sleep until 4-5am (it's 5:21 now). I am home all day. My husband works. She gets upset when he leaves and insists I stay awake with her when I do best sleeping until at least 10 preferably noon with my insomnia, meds for it, etc.... She also cries if I'm out of the room. She got upset I was cleaning the kitchen 5' from where she was gated and she couldn't join me.

Part of it I think is also that she wants to eat all the Taste of the Wild the big dogs have that she can get. She inhales the stuff. It's like a vacuum. I meant to give her 2 cups today and I think she got 5 using thievery and still complained when I locked another dog's food bowl in their crate. She was having a bloated stomach and diarrhea from the TOTW so we have her on a natural balance formula that she doesn't inhale as much and premade frozen raw when possible. I can put 2 cups of natural balance out and it will slowly be gone from her crate dish. I've been putting a cup or 2 of the TOTW in a food dispensing ball the others never enjoyed and she chases it around the room for hours. It helps keep me sane and she gets to slowly eat some TOTW without the upset stomach and overeating.

She lost her wooden crate form for a metal pan with a small blanket. She's considerably bigger than that pic now. Went from 8lbs to 13.5lbs in 2 weeks and is still growing very fast. For some reason this simple difference seems to have changed the mentality of the crate a little and she goes in it herself to sleep now.

OMG was she a terror today. She wasn't too bad about waking me up but once out she just would not stop. She flew around the room destroying everything possible, annoying all dogs, and practically bouncing off walls. It's subzero out so yard time is limited and no hiking. I don't want to take her to places like pet stores on only 1 set of shots but we can try to make puppy playgroup (just drop in but must have vaccination records) this week on Tuesdays and Fridays. Last week it just didn't happen. Winter isn't the best time for a puppy here. Hopefully in a month we'll be back out on trails but if we don't want to slosh through mud it will have to be concrete which isn't ideal for joints. Actual obedience class starts Jan 3rd so maybe that will get us by.

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I Think the answer here is to tire her out with some training (obedience) she is at the right age now have plenty of treats handy too and verbal praise and keep it fun There's a true saying a tired dog is a happy dog Good luck and let us know who you get on!
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